Recall that Tonto Dikeh, who was dishing out marriage and relationship teaching through her Instagram page, broke up with her husband allegedly for domestic violence and other sundry issues a few months ago.

She vividly compared tolerance in marriage and relationship to the level of tolerance of the frog when being exposed to varying degrees of heat in a pot of water.

She said:

“Put a frog into a vessel fill with water and start heating the water. As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjusts its body temperature accordingly. The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point, the frog decides to jump out. 

The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature.

Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog?
Think about it!
I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out.
We all need to adjust to people & situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust & when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions.
If we allow people to exploit us
physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so.
Let us decide when to jump!
Let’s jump while we still have the strength. Are you ready to #Jump

In the reactions, some fans blamed her for embarrassing her husband in the media, urging her to apologise to him. She was reminded of how she praised God for using him to make her a better woman that she now claims to be.

Another fan pleaded with her to make up with her husband, adding that her marriage has been a source of inspiration for many others. The fan stated: “I am not a I.G person, but I always comes up here to read your sweet and motivated messages you used to put up here. I referred so many women to your page including my own wife and my friends wife’s both black and white women. But you let me down and you let God down.”

Generally, Tonto Dikeh was advised to make the conscious effort to make her marriage work once again as fans disapprove of her reactions and disengagement from her husband.